Maine 18 saal ki umar mein shaadi ki. Mere husband 35 saal ke the. Shuruat mein, humare beech sab kuch perfect tha. Chahe din mein kitni bhi jhagde, raat tak hum sab kuch bhool jaate aur phir se kareeb mehsoos karte.
Pehle mujhe unse shaadi nahi karni thi kyunki umar ka farq tha, lekin meri family ne insist kiya, aur maine maan liya.
Time ke saath, cheezein badalne lagi. Main jawaan thi aur energy se bhari hui. Mujhe apne doston ke saath baatein karna aur hansna pasand tha, lekin meri saas ko ye pasand nahi tha. Unhone kaha, “Tum nayi shaadi shuda ho, aur tumhe apne saas-sasur aur devar ki izzat karni chahiye.”
Maine apne habits nahi badle, jis se unhe mujhse aur nafrat hone lagi, lekin mujhe parwaah nahi thi.
Upside Down
Hamari shaadi ke ek saal baad, mere husband ko kaam ke liye foreign jaana pada. Maine unhe kaha ki main unke saath jaana chahti hoon, lekin unhone mana kar diya, kehkar ki ye sirf do mahine ke liye hai aur unke parents aur bimar bhai ko meri zaroorat hai ghar par.
Humne jhagde. Maine unhe kaha, “Maine tumse shaadi ki hai, tumhari family se nahi.” Unhone aakhir mein kaha, “Theek hai, apna passport banwa lo.”
Jab mera passport tayaar hua, to unhe gussa aaya aur unhone kaha, “Tum sirf wahi karti ho jo tumhe chahiye.” Maine jawab diya, “Haan, mujhe apne faisle lene ke liye kisi ki rai ki zaroorat nahi hai.”
Ye baat badh gayi, aur meri saas ne bhi mujhse rukne ki guzarish ki, kehkar ki ye sirf do mahine hain. Maine rukne ka vaada kiya lekin sirf is shart par ki main un dino mein apne maa-baap ke ghar rahungi.
Ab iss story may garbar hy. itni choti si baat py koi relation khatam nahi karta.
Jab mere husband wapas aaye, to unhone mujhe lene nahi aaya. Phone par unhone kaha, “Shaadi cooperation ke liye hoti hai, lekin tum sirf apne baare mein sochti ho. Ye rishte ab nahi chal sakte.”
Shaadi ka the End
Unhone divorce papers bheje. Meri family ne mujhe samjhane ki koshish ki ki sab kuch theek kar lo, lekin maine apni self-respect ko zyada ahmiyat di. 19 saal ki umar mein, main divorce le chuki thi.
Divorce ke Baad ki Zindagi
Jab main 22 saal ki hui, to maine dobara shaadi karne ka faisla kiya. Lekin mujhe sirf aise mardon se milna hua jo kaafi bade, widowed, ya divorced the. Mujhe second marriages ka stigma mehsoos hua.
Ab main 27 saal ki hoon aur abhi tak unmarried hoon. Jab main sochti hoon, to kabhi kabhi lagta hai ki apne husband ke saath foreign jaane par insist karna shayad ek galti thi. Agar maine jhagde nahi hote, to shayad cheezein alag hoti.
Aurton ke Liye Ek Sabaq
Divorce utna simple nahi hai jitna lagta hai. Movies aur TV shows ise aasaan dikhate hain, lekin haqeeqat kafi kathin hoti hai. Iske baad zindagi aur bhi mushkil ho jaati hai.
Chahe hum auratein kitni bhi strong ya capable kyun na ho, hamesha akeli hone ka dar hota hai. Ek partner hone se aksar ye dar kam hota hai, chahe hum isse apne ego ki wajah se na maane.
Sab young ladkiyon se main ye kehna chahti hoon:
Divorce jaise faisle ko halka mat lo. Choti choti issues ko patience se suljha sakte hain. Ek baar jab aap shaadi todte hain, to zindagi aur bhi mushkil ho jaati hai.
Agar meri kahani se kisi ko dukh hua, to mujhe maf karain. Mera sirf ye irada hai ki main apna experience share karun aur dusron ki madad karun. Agar aapko meri kahani mein kuch sabaq mili, to comment may batana.
